Society is or can be a reflection of each individual within that society. The same can be said of all types of relationships that we belong to, such as a team, organization, family, marriage, friendships and so on. As I think about those connections, the mind spins into many realms of being or belonging. Who do I choose to be with and belong to? Then I asked why do I choose those relationships?
What is the most important relationship in your life? I figured that question had to be answered first. The answer came rather quickly and the most important relationship I have is with my own self. No one will ever know me as fully as I know myself. In some ways I feel that is a great loss but it is a reality (anyway that is a side bar thought)
In the time I have spent in peace work, psychology has proven to be a major element of understanding peace. Societal peace, inner peace and peace with the environment have all been intertwined. Mostly though when dealing with violent conflict the focus is split between inner peace and societal peace.
Being from Canada I have the luxury of being able to go home to a peaceful country and live where ever I please. Not so for many of the people I have lived with. That luxury is not a reality for many and to be honest it has caused a great deal of pain for me to reconcile with. It has often been thrown in my face without sugar coating.
“We live here, this is our homeland, where else do we go, we can not leave.”
Each of those statements stir many memories and emotions as I think about the people that said them. These people choose to stay in that place because of their attachment, they belong there. No matter how hellish life gets they will not give up, why?
The only answer I feel is worth repeating is that these people believe in the future of a peaceful day. It is that singular piece of mindset that has enabled me to work at bringing peace to anywhere I have worked. There has to be hope in a future that is peaceful. Even as I think about all the relationships that an average person here in Canada has, they too must make similar decisions as to whether or not a relationship continues.
As I sit here writing this the economy is in dire condition. Then I think about all of what I just wrote and I know that the economy will boom again someday. Think the economy is bad now, imagine what is what like here in Canada during the thirteen hundreds? Wonder if they even cared?